Stress and Parenting

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The last few weeks have probably been the most stressful of my life. I like to think of myself as a positive person and when I’m going through a hard time I always tell myself how lucky I am in so many ways. Well its been hard to stay positive lately.
It’s been really hard putting on a brave face in front of the children. The last thing I want is the stress to affect them too but not sleeping well thrown in has left me short tempered and I hate myself for it.
Our family relies on my wonderful, hardworking husband and his work situation has been in limbo lately. He has been employed with the same employer for over 13 years but for many reasons his job security has been unsure. The not knowing has been the worst. Not knowing what plan to make just waiting to be thrown into a direction wherever that might be.
I guess we took for granted the security an employed job brings and we didn’t fully appreciate that until it was about to be ripped away from us.
My husband is a grafter. He certainly isn’t one for sitting still and that has been the biggest worry for me. If he didn’t have work and was stuck indoors he would be frustrated which would make me frustrated which means we would be at each others throats.
It sounds silly but if we spent all day, every day together we would probably end up separating. Not because we don’t love each other enough, we’ve been together for 12 years so we have to be doing something right, but because time apart from each other helps us WANT to be with each other all the time.
After alot of uncertainty hubby is now officially self employed! It’s very scary. He has always been proud that he solely supports our family financially, and he still is but now it has an added pressure with it he has to find his own work.
I’m so proud of him. I think he underestimates himself. He is fantastic at his job and it shows as he has had many calls already asking him to price up jobs etc.
I’m excited about it all. There’s more opportunity for him to have weekends at home, we have just had business cards delivered, ordered t-shirts and when I have worked out how there will be a website set up.
I will always be behind my husband no matter what his decision is. He has done so much for us and I know he will always continue to.

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I am a 28 year old mum living in Kent. I am totally outnumbered living with my husband and 3 boys but I love the fun and adventure they bring to my life. As a family we enjoy being active and to get out and about as much as possible. A little about us Me- My husband and I met 12 years ago when I was 16 and him 19. Being so young I don't think either of us expected a nervous first date at the cinema to lead to marriage and 3 children but we soon became inseparable. It can be hard staying 'girlie' in a house full of boys. DS1- DS1 is very sporty. He enjoys football, rugby and swimming but his real passion is motocross. I think hubby would have happily had him on a motocross bike the second he took his first step but he first started to ride when he got his first 50cc bike at 6 years old. Now, aged 8, he rides with complete confidence on his 65cc and is desperate to start competing. As his mother I will always worry about him no mater what he does but seeing how happy this sport makes him makes me want to support him 100%. DS2- DS2 is a real animal lover. He would love nothing more than to have a house full of cats and dogs but unfortunately for him the only pet we have is our goldfish named 'Goldie'. When we visit family who have dogs DS2 will happily sit there for hours talking, stroking and trying to teach them tricks. Computer games is DS2's favourite pass time. He was gifted a tablet for Christmas last year and now, at 6, he has my husband bugging him on tips to get new levels. To keep active DS2 really enjoys swimming. He is not afraid of the water at all and would swim every day given the chance. He has such a loving, caring personality. DS3- DS3 is, well, a real handful as most 2 year olds are. He is never short of energy and zooms everywhere at a million miles an hour on his favourite balance 'motorbike'. Much to my husbands joy DS3 is also obsessed, yes obsessed with motocross. All he wants to do is play motorbikes, wear DS1's helmet and boots at any given chance and watch the videos of DS1 riding. DS3 learns so much from his older brothers and he surprises me everyday with how daring and forward he is in so many ways.

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